Social media has a strong influence on people’s behavior and relationships. Some romantic relationships end because of this, but you can save yours by setting healthy boundaries on social media.
Why healthy social media boundaries are important
Online social networks like TikTok, Facebook, Instagram and more are all the rage. There were 5.22 billion social media users in October 2024, which will likely involve many people you know. It is normal for your partner to also use these platforms.
Social media is sometimes healthy for your relationship. When you receive a cute cat video from your partner, you know they’re thinking about you even when you’re apart. When they post a photo of you with a heart emoji, it’s like saying to the whole world, “Here’s the love of my life.”
However, the tables can turn when someone becomes obsessed with social media. It is estimated that almost 10% of people are clinically addicted to the internet. It’s important to urge your partner to set boundaries on social media to protect their mental health and your relationship.
How to talk to your partner
Talking to your partner about healthy boundaries on social media is a big step. Nevertheless, this can result in a healthier and closer relationship.
1. Prioritize comfort and fairness
Discussing the boundaries of social media shines a mirror on you and your partner’s social media use. There are some things you will like and dislike, but know that it is a safe place to share your thoughts and opinions. Remember to be honest while practicing good communication to maintain comfort.
2. Find the main pain point
You may notice one important thing about your partner’s use of social media. For example, you may not like how many hours they spend online because it reduces quality time. Bring it up and share your feelings. You can come up with solutions together, such as setting specific time limits and turning off notifications during dates.
3. Respect each other’s privacy
No matter how honest couples are, it is important to respect each other’s privacy. About 34% of Americans have watched secretly via their current partner’s mobile phone. If you’re curious, ask them to share and answer any questions they have. Learn to trust each other to make the relationship work in the long run.
4. Discuss your non-negotiables
Every couple will have their own rules. As you set your healthy social media boundaries, talk about your non-negotiables. Here are a few examples of where you can draw the line:
- Avoiding Oversharing: They may have trouble figuring out what and when to post, so try to mention examples you don’t want to see online. For example, publishing an argument can feel awkward and unpleasant. Also keep sensitive information, such as your shared address and assets, off the internet.
- Online interaction with other people: Some individuals encourage their partners to join communities and post online. However, anything that is or indicates flirtatious should be off the table. Remember to be open with each other if a particular post or comment of theirs hurts you, and vice versa.
- Not wanting to participate in trends: Social media trends like dance challenges can be fun. However, the proposal is a joke and over-analysis of relationships could potentially harm your dynamics. Tell them that you don’t want to create this type of content and how it makes you feel.
5. Reaffirm your relationship
Many people forget that social media shows the highlights of a person’s life, not the full picture. As a result, those in romantic relationships are vulnerable to jealousy on social mediaespecially young adults. Reaffirm your love for each other and how you don’t have to live up to the grand expectations of the online world.
6. Make plans off-screen
It’s tempting to share every date you and your partner have. However, try to make special plans off-screen as well. Organize an outing where you simply enjoy each other’s company. You can still take photos and videos for the memories!
Set boundaries on social media
Social media is a powerful tool for connecting people, but it can also cause a disconnect within a relationship. Be open and honest with your partner as you establish boundaries, and work together to navigate the gaps.
